Surviving Breakups can be hard, can’t it? I know that breakups are by no means an easy thing to cope with, but there are definitely things that you want to do when you’re going through a breakup that will help you out in the long run.
Surviving Breakups 101
First, don’t try to find a rebound relationship. I know that suddenly finding yourself single and alone can be a real blow to you, but trust me, you really don’t want to running off into someone else’s arms. Getting through heartbreak is really something you need to do on your own.
Like it or not, you probably still have a lot of issues that are left unresolved from your last relationship.
It’s not fair to this new person to make them have to deal with all your emotional baggage. If the two of you are meant to be, your new squeeze will wait for you.
Taking some time off after a breakup to enjoy being single again can truly be a life-transforming thing.
You can learn to become independent and explore the freedom that being single will offer you. Trust me, single life can be very rich and enjoyable.
You don’t need to have someone by your side to be happy in life.
This alone is a huge realization that will help with surviving breakups and bringing some peace and happiness to your life (not to mention healing a broken heart naturally–not by burying the feelings in a new relationship).
Second, I know it’s trite, but time does indeed heal a broken heart. You probably are in a lot of pain right now and I know that surviving breakups is never an easy thing, but take comfort in the thought that this will all pass and you will eventually learn to laugh and love again.
Of course this doesn’t mean you need to suffer right now either.
It is often very helpful to keep your mind busy when you’re surviving breakups.
Take up some kind of hobby. One that requires you to focus and think so that your mind doesn’t wander back to those nasty thoughts of your breakup.
Personally, I recommend sports like soccer or learning a new language. Both of these things require you to pay attention to what you’re doing rather than mindlessly repeating something ad nausium–which is important in keeping those nasty thoughts away and helping you deal with a breakup.
Third, don’t contact your ex. I’ve been there myself. I’ve felt those urges to just pick up the phone and call him, or type up one quick e-mail “just to say hi.”
Let me tell you, when your ex does respond, you almost never feel better.
You just end up hearing about how they’re dating someone new or the two of you get in some kind of fight and you’re left feeling even worse than before.
If you really want to heal and move on with your life, don’t contact them. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends down the road.
Of course that is still a possibility, but after a messy breakup, the two of you just need some time apart to cool off and let go of all the petty disagreements and immature finger-pointing.
If you feel like you’re just hanging on by a thread and need some help surviving breakups or getting over breakup depression, try out these three tips and you’ll see that your life will soon become much more positive and you’ll start to have a more optimistic outlook on life.
What you do from that mindset is up to you. You might decide to try to work things out with your ex; maybe you will move on; perhaps you’ll try to stay friends with your ex. The choice is really up to you.