Hey there this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer the question, what to do if your ex girlfriend contacts you and she wants to hang out or she wants to meet up with you.

Well, in situations like this there are really two kinds of things that [...]]]>

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Hey there this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer the question, what to do if your ex girlfriend contacts you and she wants to hang out or she wants to meet up with you.

Well, in situations like this there are really two kinds of things that could be going on.

Number one: Maybe you broke up with her. If that’s the case, she may be either trying to get closure or trying to get back together with you. Possibly she misses the relationship. Possibly she wants it back. She wants to meet up with you to discuss those things, or to see how the two of you are going to interact, and to see if it would be a good idea to get back together.

If that’s something you want to peruse, then you should go ahead and meet up with her. But if that’s something you don’t want to do, then you should politely and kindly let her know that that’s just a door you’d rather not open.

And the other option is if she broke up with you. If this is happening, what’s probably happening is she’s having what they call “dumper’s remorse.” Either that or she just wants to see how you’re doing.

But basically when someone breaks up with you it creates a very strong emotion within them known as guilt. You feel rejected. You feel all that pain. You don’t need me to tell you that.

When you dump someone else, you feel guilty because there’s this person, they’re in pain, they’re crying, they’re in tears. You feel guilty because you’re causing that pain to someone else. No one wants to think of themselves as a bad kind of person that hurts other people. So, she would probably be feeling guilty about that.

What may be happening is that she wants to alleviate that guilt by seeing how you’re doing and seeing that you’re doing well. If she sees that you’re doing well, that you’re happy, that your life is good, she’ll think “Wow I feel great now. That’s such a huge burden off my shoulders.”

There’s another possibility too, which is that she might be starting to realize that she made a mistake. She may realize that leaving you was not the best decision, and that she was actually happier together with you, and she’s trying to get back together with you by meeting up with you and just testing the waters.

If that’s something you’re willing to explore, then you should absolutely meet up with her, but you want to do it at your own convenience, okay? You don’t want to drop everything that you’re doing, push your friends aside, push your other commitments aside, and say, “Yes! You want to meet at the coffee shop around the corner in half an hour? I’ll be there right away! I’ll put everything else on the back burner. I’ll be right there for you!”

You don’t want to do that. That is very desperate. That is not attractive at all. So, you want to do it at your own convenience.

That’s really what my advice would be if your ex girlfriend wants to meet up or hang out.

Hey there, this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer a question about does the No Contact Rule work to get your ex back.

I know that this is a question that a lot of people have when they are starting [...]]]>

Transcript of the Above Video on the No Contact Rule:

Hey there, this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer a question about does the No Contact Rule work to get your ex back.

I know that this is a question that a lot of people have when they are starting to entertain the idea of doing the No Contact Rule.

On one hand it can be quite frightening because it feels so counterintuitive to what you want to do. You want to get back together. You want to be closer to them, but the No Contact Rule tells you to pull apart. That can be a little bit frightening.

But I want you to know that it absolutely does work. It’s not going to work all the time under every circumstance. However, it will work more often than not doing it really.

So why does it work? It works because… Well, first of all, a lot of people will tell you to do it because it will manipulate your ex into missing you. That’s not really the reason why you should be doing it. That’s not the reason you should be doing it.

What you should be doing it for, is to help you heal yourself, to help pull yourself back together in an emotional sense. Let’s be honest, most people who go through a breakup feel heartbroken, they feel crushed, they do a couple things that aren’t really in character with who they are.

Taking a little time away from your partner will help you pull yourself together, rather than constantly interacting with them and having those wounds torn open time and time again. You’ll be able to heal a lot faster, and so on.

What’s even better is that doing the No Contact Rule will really help you become that kind of person that they fell in love with in the first place. During your time of No Contact, what you can really do is work on yourself and becoming the person that they fell in love with in the first place.

You already know they find that person attractive, so if your intention is to get back together, then you should start acting like that person again, right?

So, during the No Contact period, get back out there and do the things you did before. Play the guitar like you did before. Paint those pictures like you did before. Exercise, hang out with your friends, just have fun with your life.

I know it will seem difficult at first, but just get that ball rolling things will start to improve and get easier.

So, just to answer the question, yes the No Contact Rule does work. It will help you heal. It will help you get your life back. And it will help you possibly even save your relationship and get your ex back.

Hey there this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer the question, what to do when you girlfriend… Your ex girlfriend won’t talk to you.

What’s basically happening when she isn’t talking to you or she’s ignoring [...]]]>

Transcript of the Above Video about When Your Ex Girlfriend Won’t Talk to You:

Hey there this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com.

Today I want to answer the question, what to do when you girlfriend… Your ex girlfriend won’t talk to you.

What’s basically happening when she isn’t talking to you or she’s ignoring you… It depends on a couple different situations.

Situation number one is if she dumped you. Now what you need to understand is whenever anyone dumps someone else, what they’re really trying to get is they are trying to get space away from that relationship or space away from you.

And this doesn’t necessarily mean that things are over or that they’ll never work out. It just means that she wants space away from the relationship so she can get perspective on her life. As to whether or not she wants to be in a relationship. Whether or not she wants to be in a relationship with you. Whether or not she likes her job, or her friends, or anything else really.

And what you want to do in that situation is to give her that space so she can get that perspective, because she’ll appreciate you more for it.

If you try to reach out and contact her anyway, she’ll just pull further away because she thinks that she needs to keep pulling further and further away in order to get that space.

The second situation is if you dumped her. When this happens, she’s probably trying to distance herself from the relationship because she wants time to heal emotionally from the breakup.

So what you want to do is try to contact her one last time and say that you’re not going to pressure her or anything like that, and that you understand that she wants to heal, but that you still like to maintain that connection or friendship, or something like that.

That way she has time to heal at her own pace. When she’s ready she can reach out and contact you.

And today I want to talk about what to do when your ex girlfriend is dating another guy.

This can be pretty painful for a lot of guys who are going through breakups. A lot of times the rejection of being dumped by her will sting that much [...]]]>

Hey there this is Clay from RelationshipInnerGame.com

And today I want to talk about what to do when your ex girlfriend is dating another guy.

This can be pretty painful for a lot of guys who are going through breakups. A lot of times the rejection of being dumped by her will sting that much more when she’s moved on to that rebound relationship. Especially if you’re trying to work things out with her or stay in touch with her.

It can really make it hurt that much more. You’re probably already hurting as it is because of the breakup, but just the fact that she’s actually in the process of getting together with someone else is going to make it sting that much more.

What I’d recommend you do though, is that you not really concern yourself so much about what they’re doing with each other.

Because, it is a rebound relationship, and rebound relationships don’t really work out in the long run anyway, because, a lot of times, when someone breaks up with someone else, they have a lot of emotions that they have to deal with.

So, what you need to understand is that she’s going to be dealing with those emotions after she breaks up with you.

And a lot of times people go into a rebound relationship to try to avoid those emotions. They hope that going from one
relationship to the next will sort of smother all those feelings out, but it doesn’t work. Those are going to have to come up sooner or later anyway.

And what’s going to happen is that’s going to put a lot of tension on their new relationship. And eventually that’s going to pull their relationship apart, in most cases.

So again, I wouldn’t worry too much about your ex girlfriend dating a new guy. What I’d do if I wanted to get her back, is I would approach the situation as if she wasn’t dating anyone at all. And I would let everything play out on its own.

And if you’d like to learn more about how to deal with relationships and breakups, please go ahead and check out RelationshipInnerGame.com for more free information. Thanks.

Hey there, this is your pal Clay with Relationship Inner Game dot com.

Today I have a question about why does my ex keep calling me? Why does my ex keep texting me? Emailing me? Contacting me? You [...]]]>

Transcript of the Above Video About Why Your Ex Contacts You:

Hey there, this is your pal Clay with Relationship Inner Game dot com.

Today I have a question about why does my ex keep calling me? Why does my ex keep texting me? Emailing me? Contacting me? You know, whatever.

If you’ve experienced this after your ex broke up with you, it can be confusing. You know, it’s like, why did they break up with me, and why are they contacting me now all of the sudden? I thought they wanted to be away from me.

But the reason for this is because that, most likely they still care about you. They are most likely second guessing their decision to break up with you, and they are conflicted themselves.

Obviously if they broke up with you at one point, they wanted to be away from you. And if they’re contacting you, they want to be in contact with you again. They want to be in touch with you again.

So there’s obviously some conflict going on there, which means that they aren’t quite sure exactly what they want. But you can be that they still care about you, and that they still value their relationship with you.

So what this means you should do, should you contact them back, should you spend time with them?

If you’re trying to get them back, then yes you should, but you should do it on your own terms. You should not rearrange your schedule, put your life on hold, just so you can see them.

You should do it when it’s convenient for you. You should not be sitting there waiting by the phone, waiting for them to call you. You should not be canceling plans with your friends. You should not be canceling your other obligations, just so you can see them.

Thank you.