Your Boyfriend Wants a Break – Does This Mean It's Over?
He just told you those five words “We should take a break.” You feel your stomach drop and it feels like someone just dumped a bucket of ice water on you. What does it mean when your boyfriend wants a break? And more importantly, what can you do about it to fix your relationship and prevent a breakup?
Your Boyfriend Wants a Break – Reading Between the Lines
Now, before you jump to conclusions and assume that this means that the relationship is over, take a moment and remind yourself that you’re dealing with a guy. Men, in general, will tell you exactly what they are feeling or thinking. They really don’t tend to cloak everything they do in hidden meanings and innuendo.
I know us women tend to read into things, but your life will be a lot easier, if you just take him at his word.
He wants to take a break. He needs space away from your relationship for awhile to reassess his life. That’s all there is to it.
During this time of self-reflection, your boyfriend might come to realize that he actually loves you more than he first imagined and he may decide he wants you back. The break can actually make your relationship stronger as the two of you learn to value each other more.
When your boyfriend wants a break, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is in trouble, so don’t jump to conclusions.
Okay, so my boyfriend wants a break. What can I do about it?
Well, first of all, you absolutely do not want to try to pressure him into getting back together with you or try to constantly talk to him about “working out your problems.” And you definitely want to avoid making him jealous.
Remember that he wants the break because he wants space away from the relationship to think things over. By trying to pull him even closer to you, you are not giving him space. In fact, you’re doing the opposite, you’re smothering him and this will only make him push you further away from him.
Instead, you should respect his request for some space and actually break off contact for a little while. This will feel very counter-intuitive, but it can actually get the two of you back together.
So, if you’re boyfriend wants a break, have an honest discussion with him. Then when both of you have expressed your concerns, let him know that you will respect his wishes and give him some personal space to reevaluate his life.
Start by agreeing to a trial period of about 2 to 4 weeks where the two of you can take a break from each other. When this time is over, meet for coffee or something and see where the two of you stand.
During these 2 to 4 weeks, you shouldn’t be worrying about your relationship. Instead, use this time to reevaluate your life as well. Re-experience single life and decide for yourself if you are truly happier in a relationship or not.
When your boyfriend wants a break, remember that the last thing you want to do is become clingy and try to “win him back.” Instead respect his wishes and you never know, the experience take both of you in a much better direction, whether that means ending an unhappy relationship or strengthening your relationship and making it even more rewarding for both of you.
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